Personality Disorders: Codependence

 The following videos are discussions about various “personality disorders”. I have posted them here for the purpose of sharing information about personality types. Remain objective; do not become identified with and allow yourself to be taken by what you see and hear. Many personality types share many of the same manifestations and habitual ways of being. If what is shared touches a nerve, or starts associations in you, remain centered in yourself. Become aware of your breathing and the soles of the feet on the ground to help you to remain focused while watching and listening. ;-) L.

Wikipedia:
Codependency is defined as a psychological condition or a relationship in which a person is controlled or manipulated by another who is affected with a pathological condition ...... ; and in broader terms, it refers to the dependence on the needs of, or control of, another.^[1] It also often involves placing a lower priority on one's own needs, while being excessively preoccupied with the needs of others.^[2] Codependency can occur in any type of relationship, including family, work, friendship, and also romantic, peer or community relationships.^[2] Codependency may also be characterized by denial, low self-esteem, excessive compliance, or control patterns.^[2] Narcissists are considered to be natural magnets for the codependent.

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Darlene Lancer, author of "Codependency for Dummies" and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, speaks to professionals at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center, Los Angeles.

 

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Ross Rosenberg, Author: HumanMagnetSyndrome

THE CONTINUUM OF SELF THEORY. A New Theory About Opposite Attraction: Codependents and Narcissists

WE BECOME CODEPENDENTS IN OUR CHILDHOOD. How and Why We Become a Codependent. The Origins of It

  Active vs. Passive Codependents. CODEPENDENCY CATEGORIZED:  A New Way of Thinking 

 

4 Stages of Codependency Recovery. 4 Stages of Codependency Treatment

 

Love

February 11, 2014

"LOVE AS A BUSINESS DEAL

It is very difficult to learn to love. If an object of fascination or some kind of dream or promise is presented to you, you might fall in love. But it is very hard to love if it means purely giving love without expecting anything in return. We can only fall in love if we think our expectations will be fulfilled. In most of our love affairs, our love is conditional. It is more of a business deal than actual love."
  ~ “Planting the Moon of Bodhi in Your Heart” in Volume Two of The Profound Treasury of the Ocean of Dharma by Chögyam Trungpa

Disengaging from a Manipulative Person's Toxic Behavior Toward Us

The following videos are discussions about “personality disorders”. I have posted them here for the purpose of sharing information about personality types. Do not become identified with and allow yourself to be taken by what you see and hear. Many personality types share many of the same manifestations and habitual ways of being. If what is shared touches a nerve, or starts associations in you, remain centered in yourself. Become aware of your breathing and the soles of the feet on the ground to help you to remain focused while watching and listening. ;-) L.

Ross Rosenberg, author and codependency expert, discusses a technique he developed that empowers and assists recovering codependents with their struggles with their narcissistic loved ones. This is a revolutionary technique that will help anyone disconnect from an emotionally manipulative person's (an addict or pathological narcissist) attempts to bring them into their world of chaos and drama. As George Bernard Shaw once said, "I learned long ago, never to wrestle with a pig. You get dirty, and besides, the pig likes it." This video will help the recovering codependent to not "wrestle" with their manipulative narcissist. Ross is the author of: the Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us

False Modesty

Sam Vaknin: Author: Malignant Self Love
Mr. Vaknin is a self professed narcissist who candidly shares a great deal of information about being a narcissist.  
These videos are here for the purpose of gathering information about personality types. Do not become identified with and allow yourself to be taken by what you see and hear. Many personality types share many of the same manifestations and habitual ways of being. If what he shares touches a nerve stay focused and remain centered in yourself. Remain aware of breathing to help while watching and listening. ;-)  L.

Explaning Dysfunctional Attraction - Narcissists & Codependent

The following videos are discussions about “personality disorders”. I have posted them here for the purpose of sharing information about personality types. Do not become identified with and allow yourself to be taken by what you see and hear. Many personality types share many of the same manifestations and habitual ways of being. If what is shared touches a nerve, or starts associations in you, remain centered in yourself. Become aware of your breathing and the soles of the feet on the ground to help you to remain focused while watching and listening. ;-) L.

Ross Rosenberg: Author: theHumanMagnetSyndrome.com
"As a psychotherapist and recovering codependent I have learned that you cannot change or make your codependency go away until you first understand what it is and why you struggle with it." 

The Discontinuous Narcissist

The following videos are discussions about “personality disorders”. I have posted them here for the purpose of sharing information about personality types. Do not become identified with and allow yourself to be taken by what you see and hear. Many personality types share many of the same manifestations and habitual ways of being. If what is shared touches a nerve, or starts associations in you, remain centered in yourself. Become aware of your breathing and the soles of the feet on the ground to help you to remain focused while watching and listening. ;-) L.

Sam Vaknin: narcissist, author: Malignant Self Love

The Compulsive Giver

“Every man has a certain feature in his character which is central. It is like an axle round which all his ‘false personality’ revolves. Every man’s personal work must consist in struggling against this chief fault.” – George Gurdjieff (as quoted by Peter Ouspensky, In Search of the Miraculous, p.233)

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Disclaimer:  Mr Vaknin is not associated with nor recommended as an authority by the myself or =, as far I I am aware, by any Gurdjieff group.

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"Some narcissists are ostentatiously generous -- they donate to charity, lavish gifts on their closest, abundantly provide for their nearest and dearest, and, in general, are open-handed and unstintingly benevolent. How can this be reconciled with the pronounced lack of empathy and with the pernicious self-preoccupation that is so typical of narcissists? The act of giving enhances the narcissist's sense of omnipotence, his fantastic grandiosity, and the contempt he holds for others. It is easy to feel superior to the supplicating recipients of one's largesse. Narcissistic altruism is about exerting control and maintaining it by fostering dependence in the beneficiaries. (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin)

Defense Against Narcissist's Behaviors

Interview with Dr. Gail Saltz and Dr. Drew Pinsky