Love

February 11, 2014

"LOVE AS A BUSINESS DEAL

It is very difficult to learn to love. If an object of fascination or some kind of dream or promise is presented to you, you might fall in love. But it is very hard to love if it means purely giving love without expecting anything in return. We can only fall in love if we think our expectations will be fulfilled. In most of our love affairs, our love is conditional. It is more of a business deal than actual love."
  ~ “Planting the Moon of Bodhi in Your Heart” in Volume Two of The Profound Treasury of the Ocean of Dharma by Chögyam Trungpa

Defense Against Narcissist's Behaviors

Interview with Dr. Gail Saltz and Dr. Drew Pinsky

Co-dependants Always Fall in Love With Narcissists

The following videos are discussions about “personality disorders”. I have posted them here for the purpose of sharing information about personality types. Do not become identified with and allow yourself to be taken by what you see and hear. Many personality types share many of the same manifestations and habitual ways of being. If what is shared touches a nerve, or starts associations in you, remain centered in yourself. Become aware of your breathing and the soles of the feet on the ground to help you to remain focused while watching and listening. ;-) L.

 Ross Rosenberg, at his lecture entitled, Codependents and Emotional Manipulators discusses the subjective experience for both the codependent and emotional manipulator (pathological narcissist) when they meet and fall in love with each other. Ross is the author of the Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us.

Maurice Nicoll: 12 Concise SuperWisdoms

#12

"Mr. Ouspensky used to say: "I want examples, not theoretical talk. Give me a good example of self-observation or a moment of work on yourself, a moment of real effort consciously made."

Maurice Nicoll: 12 Concise SuperWisdoms

#11

"Many people crystallize out in their negative emotions. I advise you to avoid such people."

Maurice Nicoll: 12 Concise SuperWisdoms

#10

"If a person does not nourish Work 'I's' they become feeble and may even leave us forever."

Maurice Nicoll: 12 Concise SuperWisdoms

Maurice Nicoll

 #9

"The object of self-observation, as it is said in the Work, is to let a ray of light into oneself. The next thing that is said is that when light is let in in this way many things begin to change of themselves. It is the light of consciousness that begins to change things. For this reason it is said in the Work that the light will cure us. 

Have you ever thought what it means, this extraordinary phrase: "the light will cure us"? When I first heard it said to me by Gurdjieff, it had such an emotional effect upon me that I was unable to speak to anybody for some time afterwards."