Observing a Lie

Evolution Series #13
©2008 ~ L. Lopez

Well, here's an interesting start to the work year. 

After our conversation today, I sent the following to a young woman I coach by telephone every morning. I sent it because she expressed an interest in the TV show Lie to Me. And, now that the touchy feely, ooey-gooey "loving" and "caring" feelings of the "holidays" are behind us, I am sharing part of that email with you. I bring it to the fore now because lies and lying have been a non stop theme since before Thanksgiving with all of those I mentor as well as with the world in general as evidenced by upcoming elections campaigns and everyone else back to "business as usual". In order to learn how to BE present and objective lies and lying - in oneself and in others -  must be understood on the objective level. This is essential Knowledge.

"Dear ...:

... BTW - A Wise Woman once said:

"If you look for lies you will find them, if you look for truths you will find them. What do you really want to spend your time [focusing on]?"

You already know, on the instinctive/psychic level, when someone is being honest with you and when they're not. You just don't know yet how to stop your own *habitual automatic reactions* when you sense you are being lied to. 


[This is where you get into trouble. You are quickly taken by the emotions which are much faster than the other centers.]

Try this - When you sense a lie, instead of reacting emotionally, stop for a moment and go to your true center like you do when you first used the ... [centered yourself with sensation]. Stand in it. Become still inside and just [clinically] observe what it is you are hearing and seeing when you look at the one who is "lying" because there's so much more to a lie than the lie itself. There is so much more to see [know]. 


[You will see it is not really about you and you will know better what to do and say in 'response' to the lie and the liar.]

It is very interesting to view a lie from this more objective perspective. We can't do this when we are taken into illusion and imagination by our [automatic and habitual] subjectivity because we are not present in those moments. We have succumbed to *the stories and associations* in our heads and have reverted to the past, dream, imagination and illusion fueled by the stories. 

When you take yourself out of the equation by not reacting and by becoming still inside, [by becoming more present]  you are free to gather more objective  information about what is happening in those moments."

BE Listening
BE Observing
BE Present
BE Loving
BE

Attitude and Body Language

Your attitude and body language speak volumes about what you really think and feel; and you are more transparent than you realize. The reason so many people get by with lying all the time is that everyone agrees to go along for reasons of neediness or greed and far too many other reasons to list.

I am constantly amused and often saddened by this reality when working with new people. I met with a newish student recently and could see that she was thinking that she was superior to me intellectually. Her voice was literally dripping with superiority and disdain for me.  I listened for awhile to see what was happening with her as she ran her usual litany of how people are mean to her and then the other litany that usually follows listing what she wants from people in her life. Toward the end of our hour together I told her in the most loving and kind tones: "I see you thinking you are superior. You are in for a rude awakening; narcissistic idiots often end up alone in life. Deal with this feature now or you will go on losing friends. You should have seen enough evidence of this by now. That is why you come here isn't it - always confused about why this one or that one no longer wishes to see you?"

She sniffed and turned her nose up as she hurried out the door; hatred toward me dripping off her leaving a stench in the room. She hadn't heard what she wanted to hear.

If you are reading this and think it's you - it probably is. Your work for this week is to do something kind for someone else every day this week with no thought of reward or recognition for the deed while sensing your face. (If you've been paying enough attention to know how to do that after a year and a half.)  Do not speak to anyone of your special task, listen to the inner voices and make note of what they say as you go about your day.

Discovering your power doesn't mean you have to become a shit when you find it. 

Be Well
Be Peace
BE